Do you want to talk to a girl or a man, but are you afraid that you will not find a topic of conversation to hold an exchange that lasts? Maybe you are thinking of talking to someone who attracts you and so takes the first step. It is indeed essential to make sure you do not run out of the talk.
Being out of the conversation: a common and embarrassing situation
Imagine that you are both sitting next to each other. There is a sudden pause in the conversation, and you know you should say something now, but your brain seems to have stopped working. All you can think of is a boring question or a stupid comment, but nothing interesting or good enough to say it out loud.
You feel an awkward silence slowly appear like a dark cloud and you begin to panic inside. You feel like you’ve become stupid because your mind has become totally empty. It’s like you’ve lost all personality and you can barely remember your own name at this point, and even less of something to talk about to keep the conversation going, caller.
Do not worry, you are not alone (e) to have already met this situation or even the last person who will meet it. So it’s only natural that you want to prevent this from happening again, especially if you’re talking to someone you like.
So you will find in this article a list of 50 interesting conversation topics that you can use at any time to start the conversation again, even if you feel it starts to go down. You can review this list before a first appointment or a party for example. All these topics of discussion are normal, ordinary and natural and are not false good ideas.
Discuss your hobbies and hobbies
If you discover what a person’s hobbies are, you instantly know a lot more about them. Hobbies are things that people enjoy. It can be a sport, shopping, photography for example.
The best questions to discover someone’s hobbies are:
- What do you do in your free time? Simple and efficient. It also has the advantage of being an open question. If you do not get a good answer, you can ask more specific questions.
- Do you play musical instruments?
- Do you draw, paint or do art?
- Do you like to dance?
- Talk about technology, gadgets, cars, shopping, trends
Conversation topics related to work or school
Some say do not talk about work. I do not agree. When you stop and listen to what people usually talk about, work and school are at the top of the list. After all, people spend a lot of their day in these places. And their work or school is often linked to an area they are passionate about. Their co-workers are also some of the people with whom they spend the most time interacting.
BUT BEWARE: FOR SOME PEOPLE, THESE TOPICS CAN BE BORING.
- What do you do/study? (Yes, the easiest and most common way to start a conversation).
- What is your favorite subject at school?
- How do you get along with the people you work with? (People like to talk about their relationship and their frustrations with others.) Yes, it’s gossip, but you also learn a lot about how the person works in this way.
- Do you like to work there or do you like it for money? (It can be a fun question at an appointment, it’s not a good idea at a networking event).
- What is the job of your dreams? Another way to ask this: If money did not matter, what would you do with your time?
Travel related topics
Most of the most memorable experiences in people’s lives occur during their travels. And even if someone has not traveled much, he usually dreams of traveling in the future.
- In which countries did you travel? (If you visited the same country, you can talk about these shared experiences for hours.)
- What was your biggest experience of “culture shock” in another country?
- Where in the world would you like to live the most? Why?
- How does your home country compare to the one here? (If born/raised in another country.)
- What is the worst thing that happened to you on a trip? (Be careful with this one, although you’ll get interesting answers.) I’ve heard people get robbed by taxi drivers, get ripped off for a few dollars, and so on.
- Have you ever traveled alone? (Or can you ask if they would?)
- Do you speak other languages?
Talk about entertainment
When you listen and listen to the conversations of people you meet, you will always hear about movies, TV shows, and books and therefore your lifestyle as a rule. For one reason or another, people like to talk about stories and characters that they feel they know. These topics are constantly changing and the topics of conversation are innumerable.
- What is your favorite movie (or TV show)?
- Which movie/book/ show you are ashamed to admit you, love? Many people watch reality TV shows as a guilty pleasure for example.
- Which movie do you expect the most?
- What kind of books do you usually read?
- What kind of music are you interested in right now? One study found that talking about music preferences leads to a faster connection because music reveals your values to others!
- Which concerts did you attend? If someone spends money and time to see a live artist, it means he likes him a lot.
- Which movies have you watched more than once? Or which books have you read many times? (
- Do you play video games?
Talking about food and cooking
It is a light and amusing subject. Everyone eats, and most people like to talk about their personal food tastes. If this is your first conversation with someone, find out what type of food you both like or hate.
- Talk about a recent restaurant you’ve been to. How was he different from others, why was he good, why was he bad?
- What kind of cooking do they do at home?
- Do they usually cook foods from a specific crop?
- Do they follow a specific diet? This can tell you a lot about their personal values.
CAUTION: DO NOT ASK THIS QUESTION TO AN OBESE PERSON OR TO WOMEN IN GENERAL, THEY WOULD PROBABLY BE OFFENDED ACCORDING TO THEIR SENSITIVITY ABOUT THEIR WEIGHT.
Share your past experiences
The challenge of talking about past experiences is that, in general, you do not want to go into too personal details too quickly. At a romantic date, some of these questions may be appropriate. In other situations, you will want the stories of the past to appear more spontaneously because they relate to any subject that is being talked about.
- Where did you grow up?
- How were you when you were a child?
- What job did you want to do later?
- What did your previous jobs look like?
- Do you have brothers or sisters?
- Find out if you had common interests when you were kids. This can be an amazing way to establish a lot of reports quickly.
Ideas for conversation topics related to the present moment
This topic is something that most people miss, making simple small observations about your environment is a great way to kick off any conversation. Instead of digging your head, try looking around and showing something in the environment. This will often lead naturally to other topics of discussion on more or less related topics.
- Why are you both here now at a spontaneous meeting? There can be many different reasons and this is the best topic of conversation.
- Make a comment on something they wear. It may be an interesting jewel or a compliment on one of their clothes.
- Who are the other people nearby? Talk about what they do, guess what their personality looks like …
- Is there something new, unusual, or different in your environment?
- Is there music? A smell that you had not noticed before? Are you eating something? How do you feel when you touch your skin?
Discuss future or future topics for the person
People like to talk about what they are looking forward to. The challenge here is not to look like a job interviewer with something like “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
- What are you planning to do this weekend? A very common topic of conversation. It’s a great way to start a conversation with someone you already know.
- What events are you looking forward to? It can be a festival, a holiday, a concert, a protest or anything else.
- What is your main goal right now? What are you trying to accomplish?
Almost nothing is more fascinating to most people than talking about how people work. Why? Because a lot of the meaning of our life comes from our relationships. And to get what you want in life, you need to know how to manage people.
- Talk about men or women . Men can connect very quickly by talking about women, what they do and how they work. And I’ve heard that it’s even truer when women talk to each other about men.
- Ask them how are their friends? Are they very similar to each other, or opposite?
- Have they been with the same friends most of their lives, or have they made many new ones?
- Ask about their family: With whom did they live? Were they strict or easy to live with? The topic of the family is very interesting and could really open the topics of conversation because it is one of the fundamental points for each of us.
- What do you think is true and what most people would disagree with you about? It’s a bit deeper and more unusual, but I’m going to ask it here because it’s very powerful. In fact, one of the most influential investors in the world says this is his main interview question.
It’s a lot of ideas for conversation topics! I hope you have taken at least some of these ideas that can help you in your next conversation. After having read them, you may ask yourself: What makes an interesting conversation?
Often, people assume that the subject of your conversation should be super-interesting. It’s not really true.
What you are talking about does not always need to be incredibly interesting. You can make almost any conversation interesting if you are not afraid to openly share your point of view, your personality, and your opinion.
And if you find that your conversations are “boring” …. the problem here could be that you simply exchange facts with the other person. You make the mistake of not going farther and discovering how you or they work as a person.